HEY, WHOS THAT FRAUD?
I've been listening to a lot of podcasts the last few days, mainly by Jaharn Giles from Your Creative Start. She interviews creatives from all fields and talks about their business, how they started and their advice for creatives. But the most interesting parts are where they talk about their doubts, fears and the struggles. We all know that realistically 99% of people have these stories and that people only put their best selves on social media, but there is just something in our brains that puts successful people on a pedestal as having it all figured out.
Self doubt or 'imposter syndrome' (which according to the ever-reliable Wikepedia is explained as a word describing individuals who are marked by an inability to internalise their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud"). This comes across in so many ones with a main one being discounting accomplishments to 'luck', instead of acknowledging the amount of hard work and perseverance that went into getting the opportunity for said accomplishment. Or just a genuine feeling of not being good enough or knowledgeable to be in a certain situation. The fear that people are thinking 'Hey, what's that fraud doing here?'
Let's face it, it's not 'cool' to brag about what you've achieved. Social media isn't filled with people saying 'I worked really hard, gave up my weekends and nights out and I achieved this' it's filled with 'I was lucky enough to do this, or get invited here' but the truth is you didn't get to do those things by luck. Timing may have had a helping hand, but they didn't scroll through the phone book and pick your name out at random. But who are we really protecting by shrinking our successes (no matter how small)?
Personally, I love it when people go after what they want. When I see others do it my mind changes from 'why me' to 'why not me'.
Below is a link to the Dealing with Self-Doubt episode, I highly recommend listening if you have ever felt the above - which I'm pretty sure every person has. It's only 11 minutes long so listen along while you do the dishes or tidy up.
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Now go and do whatever it is you've always wanted to do!!